Why Lie to Yourself?

I have come to see lately that alongside of doubt lying to yourself is one of the worst things that you can do to yourself. Often we can end up in a situation that is not what is meant for us. We are often so focused on getting through it, that we may just tell ourselves that we are happy. That we love what are doing. We may tell ourselves that we love the person or the friend. We may tell ourselves that we are fine. When in reality we are not. 

Why lie? Why tell yourself that you are happy and content just to keep going or to make something happen? Is this worth it? Is the pain that you feel internally helping you keep the lie up?

Chances are the lies are not helping you. Chances are the lies are not helping and they are only harming you more. Listen to yourself. At the first sign on something not being ok you should evaluate what it is that allowing you to not feel like yourself. You should figure what it is that is not right in your life. If you do not there is a risk that you could make yourself unhappy. 

It may seem strange to lie to yourself but it can happen. I have found that I have done it a few times. I lied to myself in my undergraduate career. I told myself that the program that I was in and the career I was working towards was the right one for myself. I told myself that I was happy and that I was doing what I thought was good for me. I was wrong. I was unhappy and not who I really wanted to be. I was not able to enjoy everything that I wanted in my life. In graduate school I allowed myself to believe that my program was good for me and that the stress I was under was perfectly normal. I found that the stress was not academic but it was my body telling me that the program was bad for me and that I needed to get out of the situation.

It may not be an academic situation that you are lying to yourself about. Maybe it is a relationship, or a job, or another situation whatever it is let it go and stop lying to yourself. It does not have to be a situation either it could actually be an emotion. Once you listen to yourself and stop lying life can become easier.